Sunday, December 13, 2009  Fr. Pat Grile

 

Third Sunday of Advent, Gaudete Sunday

 

Today is called in the liturgy of the church Gaudete Sunday, coming from the Latin word gaudere which means rejoice.  And the whole feast is with the third Sunday of Advent, we know that next week, the fourth Sunday of Advent and then we celebrate the beautiful feast of Christmas, the birthday of Jesus.  But all these readings are trying to give us that great hope and joy.  Maybe some of us gathered here this morning say, “Well, I don’t feel really happy.  I don’t feel so joyful.  You’re telling me, ‘hey dismiss all anxiety from my mind and heart.  Be joyful, happy, put on a smiling face and just pretend nothing is wrong’?”

 

No, you can feel whatever way you want to feel.  But joy is more than just a feeling.  Joy is something that scriptures will remind us comes from deep down inside our hearts.  It really is a way of being.  I suppose you could say that.  A way of living.  But all the readings talk about this joy and this hope.  Part of that background is that the people are trying to say, “Look, your redemption is at hand.  You savior is coming.  You have great hope.   The hardships, the difficult times are going to be over.  There is cause for rejoicing.”

 

So maybe that’s the tip-off.  That in all of our lives, even though physically we may be in pain or emotionally, even spiritually we feel kind of dead inside, there is cause for rejoicing because it seems to be part of our human nature and condition isn’t it?  That in the midst of that pain, the loneliness, the fatigue, the anxiety, even the depression there is a way somehow for a sense of hope to shine through the crack.  I guess you could say it that way.  Because if all we do is just surround ourselves with darkness and doom and gloom, well that is the negative.  It is a put-down. 

 

Advent, the whole idea of the church at this time of the year, Advent, is that in the midst of this darkness of the year in nature, where the days are shorter, the sun is set by 4:00 and the days of darkness are longer.  The ancients saw that in nature so they had to figure out ways to get more light into their lives.  And then the early Christians, looking at their pagan neighbors around them said, “Well, we have the SON, the Son of God, who comes to bring us the gift of eternal light.”  That’s why we light our Advent candles, trying to overcome that darkness of sin.   So again the darkness is still going to be here, the anxiety, the fears, the anger, the hurt, the pain.  Especially at this time of the year I think of so many.  We’ve had so many funeral lately.  And those perhaps of you who have lost a loved one, the holiday season emotionally can be very draining, and very lonely.  People almost dread having to go to Thanksgiving dinner without their loved one there.  And then to have Christmas, and everybody wants to be bright and cheery and you have this big gaping hole in your heart because your loved one physically isn’t with you. 

 

So you need to go deeper, you go deeper down inside you to find where that loved one still is in your heart.  Physically not with us, but yet his or her memory, their values, their joys, their love are still very much with you and inside you.  I always tell people at a funeral that because your loved one has died doesn’t mean you stop loving them or they stop loving you.  That love still is there and goes on.  There down in the depths the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.  That's what Paul is telling us.  That the Lord is near, very near in the depths of our hearts. 

 

When we have become more aware of that, that’s part of what to me Advent is all about.  I have been trying to take personally in my own life a little more time to step back when possible from all of the business too that surrounds me, and just to sit and be quiet.  No cell phone, no TV, no computer, and just to sit and say, “Okay Lord, talk to me.”  That might be a gift you could give yourself over this next week.  Just to sit and be as quiet as you can get.  For some of us that’s going to scare the living daylights out of us. 

 

What do you mean, be alone and be quiet?  I’m not talking about loneliness, I’m taking about being able to be alone in your heart with the Lord Jesus.  You will find in that silence, peacefulness and a hope and a joy that no one can take away from you. 

 

All the things that John the Baptist talked about, preparing the way for the Lord, can come down to three simple little words; share, care, be fair.  If you’ve got all kinds of good things.  If you’ve got two coats, give one away.  Share our wealth, our goodness.  Many people have brought groceries over the last few weeks.  There is still time.  You can bring groceries any time during the week.  Bring them into the rectory.  Put them at the doors of the church.  We’ll make sure they get to Sharing and Caring Hands or to CEAP.  Over these next two weeks, I already have some requests, but I will be getting more from people in the parish who are in need of food or assistance.  That’s where I will spend a fair amount of my time over the next two weeks.  Trying to get these items, the donations that you entrust to me to share with those who are needy. 

 

You said care about other people.  Stop collecting more than what is prescribed.  That we don’t cheat other people out of our time, our patience, our gentleness.  Are you and I willing when someone calls us up, or someone is in need of just a listening heart?  Can you be there for them?  Or are you going to say, “I’m too busy.”  How much time are we willing to put in with those in need.  It could be someone in your own family.  It could be one of your college students coming home.  It might be a son or a daughter who will be coming home for the holidays.  It might be a neighbor across the street, somebody in the hospital, somebody who just lost through death a loved one.  Are you willing to care for them.  Let them know you’re thinking about them, praying for them. 

 

You know the Christmas card you got this past week from the fellow Redemptorists here.  I suppose it would make a nice dart board if you want to use it for that.  But it was a way of us trying to say to you, “We are thinking about you.”  So we dressed up in red and white, we took the picture.  We said we need to send this out to the people of St. Al’s with the Christmas schedule in there and a message.  Also that you would know that we, your Redemptorists priests who serve you care about you. 

 

Now if you want to write Christmas cards, fine, you can do that.  But if you’re going to get bent out of shape, then maybe you don’t do it.  Why get frustrated, “I gotta write all these cards.”  Maybe you only write five cards this year but those will be some of the most beautiful cards that you will send to people because your heart will be in it.  What a difference. 

 

The final thing I think John the Baptist said to the soldiers, “Be fair.”  In other words respect those around us.  We all have people in our lives who we consider the jerks.  The people we can’t stand.  The people who frustrate us.  The people we don’t particularly like.  And yet we are called to respect them.  I have found in my life many times, especially I find that perhaps my worst side comes out when I’m driving.  And maybe at this time of the year you sense and feel it too.  Well I found that instead of cursing that jerk who almost ran me off the road, and sometimes my first inclination is that, but then I calm down a little bit and I say, “Okay God, take care of it.  I don’t particularly like the way they’re driving.  I’m not going to give them the finger.  I’m not going to try to race to catch them and have road rage, but Lord I entrust them to You.  You take care of them.”  That’s fair. So we treat people with respect even though we don’t particularly like them or care about them.  

 

Those three very simple ways, share, care, and be fair, that you and I could practice this week, over the next two weeks.  And maybe by going outside of ourselves we’ll find too a deep sense of joy and peace and hope down in our hearts that only God can put there.